Casual Dating or Commit

There will probably come a time when you’re dating a girl and start
to become torn as to whether you want to continue to see her as a casual date or have her become your girlfriend.

You know you like being with her and always have a great time. Yet, you’re not sure if you’re ready to “take the plunge” and commit to just one girlfriend.

Sound familiar?

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Long Distance Relationships

Doing the “long distance” thing with a woman offers a whole different set of challenges on top of the challenges already there. But with a little extra work, you can make that long distance relationship work.

First of all, long-term relationships take a lot of patience. There will be times when you really miss your partner and want to see them, talk to them, and touch them – but can’t.

The upside to this is when you two do get to see each other, it will make your times together even more special and memorable.

Long distance relationships also take a lot of trust – since you will not be around to see what the other person’s doing or who they’re hanging out with. If you are the jealous type, long distance relationships will probably not work for you.

Planning a routine to communicate can help solidify a long distance relationship. For example, you can plan to email each other at least twice a day: in the morning and at night. Also plan to speak on the phone perhaps every other day for at least 15 minutes. This is just an example and not the rule. Bend the rules as much as you like!

Don’t become enraged if your partner isn’t by the phone when you guys planned to talk. When you’re living in different regions, it’s possible for unexpected developments to happen.

When you guys do talk on the phone or email, use this as an opportunity to really get to know each other. Then you can get to the fun stuff in person – like lots of sex!

It’s also a good idea to keep tabs every so often on how the other person’s feeling about the long distance thing. Keeping the lines of communication open will better help your chances of keeping your long distance relationship strong.

From Break Up to Make Up Sex

It sucks when you get into a big fight with someone you’re dating. All you wanna do is have things get back to the way they were before – and most important – have good sex. If you learn how to handle the aftermath of a fight, you have pretty good chances of getting things back on track…and into the sack.

First off, leave all your grudges behind. Go about things as if you have moved on. Talk about light subjects and have a sense of humor about it. You can also suggest that you watch some mindless TV or even one of your funny favorite movies.

After two argue, tensions are high. If you approach your partner and start to rub her neck and shoulders, chances are you’ll start to loosen her up.

Go out for ice cream. Or surprise your girl by telling her you’ll be back in a half hour and return with her favorite ice cream. After all, ice cream’s a girl’s best friend after a fight.

Another way to get past a fight is to take a nice walk with one another. Pick a place that’s quiet and tranquil for both of you, like a nice park or even a path on the beach if available.

Lying down next to each other and telling funny stories about your childhood is another way to help get past moments of tension. Bringing back the memories of a fun childhood can help induce playfulness. Before you know it, a pillow fight or some bed wrestling might ensue…and then I’m sure you know what usually happens from there….

Keeping the Relationship Fresh

When you first starting dating a woman, things are great. Everything feels brand new from sex to the kissing. You both talk on the phone for hours and repeatedly tell each other, “I love you more!”

But there’s a harsh reality that sets in: it’s called time. And as time goes on, things become mundane in a relationship: the sex becomes boring, the two of you aren’t as expressive with one another anymore, and you both may even begin to think of what life would be like – with other people.

This is why it’s vital to do what you can to keep the “spice” going in your relationship. Because no matter how hard you want to believe that your relationship won’t be affected, chances are it will.

So how does one keep a relationship fresh?

For starters, don’t make the sex boring! Switch it up every now and then. If you both are always doing the same position, try a different one. Play a sex game. Have you guys tried glow in the dark body paint yet? How about role playing a fantasy or trying sex in a different area of your home? It’s easy to make minor changes in your routine. And best of all, it can yield major results.

Also: monitor your behavior with your woman. Have you become too much of a Mr. Nice Guy? Women like when a guy can get feisty here and there. So if you catch yourself becoming too nice, switch it up a bit. Become a challenge to your partner. Talk some smack at her and slap her right on the ass. Get her going. This kind of stuff also does wonders in the bedroom – it makes the sex even hotter! But don’t become a major a-hole. These changes are to be taken only so slight for maximum effect.

On the other end of the spectrum, you can spice things up by planning different activities. If you always go to the same restaurants, try one that’s totally different: like one where you have to sit on the floor and only eat with your fingers or even eat your whole meal in the dark!

The moral of the story: a little change in your relationship can go a long way with keeping things interesting.

How to Fight with Your Partner

There will be times in a relationship when you and your partner won’t get along. And while issues will eventually surface, what it really boils down to is how you fight your partner. When you and your partner start to spar, here’s what you can do to keep it a good, clean fight.

Set Time To Discuss Issues
First of all, discuss your issues at a time when you can concentrate solely on the topics at hand. Don’t engage in a discussion if you’re both overly excited. It’s important to be able to discuss things in a calm manner.

Use “I” Statements
When making your points, make “I” statements instead of “you” statements. For example, instead of saying, “You always do this!,” re-phrase it as, “I feel like this happens often.” You’ll also get much better results when adding a positive statement to your concern. For example, “I appreciate your efforts to show me that you love me, but lately I feel like that’s been happening less and less.”

Stick To One Issue At A Time
It’s important to keep focused on just one issue at a time and not jump from issue to issue. When this happens, then the discussion becomes a free for all where old issues which aren’t even relevant to the current issue are brought up.

No Name Calling or Yelling
Remember to be calm. Name calling doesn’t get you anywhere. Neither does yelling. And both can escalate to other dangerous actions like throwing items or hitting.

Have Make Up Sex Afterwards
After your issues have been resolved, kiss and make up with some hot make up sex in bed! Tensions are usually still high after a fight or disagreement and this makes the sex afterwards even hotter.